This morning, as I sat in our back yard on a beautiful eighty-three-degree day, I read a blog post by John that asked this question. As I felt the cool breeze caress my legs and heard my next door neighbor try many times and finally succeed in starting his lawn mower, I pondered this question but couldn’t come up with an answer.
One thing I’ve learned about independence over the years is that sometimes, in order to be independent, you have to ask for help. When I attended the Arizona State School for the Deaf & Blind in Tucson, I was taught what I call the eleventh commandment. “Thou shalt not ask for help.” The twelfth commandment was, “Thou shalt do it yourself.” It took me many years to unlearn these commandments. Now, I own my own house and care for my totally blind partially paralyzed husband at home. I wouldn’t be able to accomplish any of this if I couldn’t ask for help.