Forever is Never Too Long

Thanks to Rhonda Partain for inspiring this. I believe that if you truly love someone, forever is never too long.

Most marriages aren’t fraught with the turmoil that ours was. When my late husband Bill and I were married in the fall of 2005, I was in my forties, and he was nineteen years my senior. Three months after our wedding, Bill suffered a stroke that paralyzed his left side. A year later, he suffered another stroke, just as we were thinking maybe he’d get back on his feet again. That never happened.

For six years, I cared for him at home. With the use of only one arm and leg, he could do little for himself. Nevertheless, I loved him, and it never crossed my mind to leave him and find another. I would have cared for him for another twenty years, but in the fall of 2012, he started to decline, and it became difficult for me to lift him. I had to move him to a nursing home where he died a month later. You can read more about this in My Ideal Partner.

Some young people nowadays look on marriage as if they were buying a car. They move in together so they can test-drive the relationship. I don’t have a problem with this, but years after they’ve decided they’re right for each other, they toss the marriage aside like an old car that is no longer of use to them. Not only is this heartbreaking for the parties involved, but it’s also not fair to any children they may have had during that time. These children didn’t choose to be born and deserve a stable family environment.

If a spouse is abusive or unfaithful, that’s one thing, but simply falling out of love with your significant other should never happen. If you’re considering marriage, be sure. Be very sure you two are compatible and that you really want to spend the rest of your lives together. A marriage isn’t a car. You can’t trade it in for another model when you get tired of it. If you truly love the one you want to marry, forever will never be too long.


Abbie Johnson Taylor
We Shall Overcome
How to Build a Better Mousetrap: Recollections and Reflections of a Family Caregiver

That’s Life: New and Selected Poems
My Ideal Partner: How I Met, Married, and Cared for the Man I Loved Despite Debilitating Odds
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Author: abbiejohnsontaylor

I'm the author of two novels,, two poetry collections, and a memoir with another novel on the way. My work has appeared in various journals and anthologies. I'm visually impaired and live in Sheridan, Wyoming, where for six years, I cared for my totally blind late husband who was paralyzed by two strokes. Please visit my website at

8 thoughts on “Forever is Never Too Long”

  1. I agree with you, Abbie. For better or worse seems to be forgotten in today’s modern world. A good marriage takes giving 110 percent by each partner. And I feel for the children who never want the divorce. They are the ones who really suffer. I guess you and I were lucky although your marriage was for a short period and filled with illness and Bill’s disability. Mine was 45 years, with ups and downs, but I never considered divorce. For better or worse meant just that to me.


  2. Life is hard for everyone. There is the stress of living, jobs, kids, money issues and health problems. A commitment means we stay even when it’s hard. It’s so worth it. Ben and I have been married for 33 years.


  3. David and I have been married for 50 years as of this April 9. We started out as best friends, and we’ve stayed that way. I can truthfully say that we love each other more all the time. I liked, admired, came to love, and then married David (when I was 21 and he was 24) for all the right reasons, rather than for shallow things like looks, money, or prestige. Looks fade with time, and money and prestige can both be lost, but character endures, and David has that in spades. He is intelligent, well-educated, calm, patient, self-disciplined, supportive, hard-working, and extremely kind. Also, he was and still is a wonderful father to our only child, Daniel, who is now 49. David also does his best to take good care of his own health, which is of great importance, we both feel. His mother lived to the age of 90 and his father to 103, even with bad health habits, so we believe and hope that the outlook for David is very good.


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