Becoming A Caretaker Changes Your Relationship

Wanda Luthman and I both know what it’s like to be a family caregiver. Although my husband is gone, and I no longer have these responsibilities, like Wanda, I want others in our situation to know they’re not alone. That’s why I wrote My Ideal Partner: How I Met, Married, and Cared for the Man I loved Despite Debilitating Odds. You’ll find more information about this memoir plus ordering links on my website at

Wanda Luthman's Children's Books

When someone you love becomes seriously ill and you become their caretaker, your relationship to that person changes. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a parent or a spouse, the dynamics are now different.

Sure the old ways of relating are still there but when you make all the decisions about their care, it’s a tall order, especially if you don’t have any medical knowledge, like me.

You want to keep the person comfortable, you want to make good decisions, you want to actually help them get better, yet you don’t really know how.

You don’t really know if you should push them to be independent or if it’s best if you do things for them.

You don’t know what questions to ask them or the doctor.

You don’t know when something is serious and when it isn’t.

Largely, you have a lot of responsibility but very little knowledge on how…

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Author: abbiejohnsontaylor

I'm the author of two novels,, two poetry collections, and a memoir with another novel on the way. My work has appeared in various journals and anthologies. I'm visually impaired and live in Sheridan, Wyoming, where for six years, I cared for my totally blind late husband who was paralyzed by two strokes. Please visit my website at

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