Thanks to BeetleyPete for inspiring this series with a similar one of his own he posted in December of last year, where he wrote about his life, using words starting with consecutive letters of the alphabet. This week’s letter is F. In what I’m about to relate, names have been changed to protect privacy.
In 1987, Fargo, North Dakota, was large compared to my home town of Sheridan, Wyoming. A music therapy student, I applied for an internship at a nursing home there and was accepted. Although I was anxious to be on my own in a new place, I felt some trepidation, as my parents and I drove into the town late one Sunday night in August after being on the road for twelve hours. I was comforted by the fact that my parents would stay with me until I found a place to live and got settled and that my internship wouldn’t start until the middle of September.
We found a motel near the freeway where we spent the night. The next morning, Dad bought a local paper and a city map. He scoured the classified ad section for apartments. After making phone calls and arranging to see a few that he found, we checked out of the motel and ate breakfast before beginning our home hunting adventure.
Because of my visual impairment, it was important to find a place within easy walking distance to the nursing home where I would work for the next six months. We had no luck. The apartments were either not affordable, too small, or didn’t meet my needs for other reasons.
A few hours later, discouraged, we were driving aimlessly, looking for a place to eat lunch when Mother said, “Oh, look, there’s a senior citizen high rise like the ones in Sheridan.”
“It’s a little too far for her to walk to the nursing home,” Dad said.
“They probably have a minibus like the one in Sheridan that could take her,” Mother pointed out. “They could also take her to the grocery store.”
“She doesn’t want to live with old folks,” Dad said, as he pulled into the parking lot.
I was thinking the same thing but said nothing. As we walked into the lobby, Mother said, “There’s a bulletin board, and it says which apartments are empty. It looks like there are several.”
In the office, the manager said, “You really don’t want to live with old folks, do you?”
Were my thoughts being broadcast to the world?
“She’ll be working at Red River Care Center,” Mother said. “It’s a little far for her to walk. Maybe your minibus could take her.”
“Our van only takes people shopping and to medical appointments,” the manager said. “Besides, this facility only serves senior citizens.”
I was relieved, but where would I live?
After lunch at a nearby McDonald’s, we found several other apartment buildings that weren’t designated for senior citizens, but none of them had vacancies. “What about downtown?” Dad asked. “You could take the bus to the Red River Care Center.”
“Yeah, why didn’t I think of that?” I said, feeling hopeful. “When I went to that stupid rehab center in Topeka several years ago, I learned how to take buses.”
“I don’t know,” Mother said. “You might have to change buses and…”
“Maybe not,” Dad said. “If you get an apartment downtown close to the transfer point, then you’d just have to take one bus. Let’s go take a look.”
We found the city bus transfer station, located next to the greyhound terminal. “Now you know where to go to catch the bus home for Christmas,” Mother said, as we parked in the lot between the two bus stations.
The holiday season was farthest from my mind, as we entered the city bus center. To my surprise, when we told the gentleman behind the counter I was looking for a place to live downtown in the hope of having easy access to work, he said, “Oh, yeah, if you live close to here, you’ll just take one bus to the Red River Care Center. In fact, there’s a building a few blocks away that might have an opening. It’s an old hotel that was converted into apartments. It’s called Grant Street Place.”
We found a pay phone, and after locating the apartment building’s address and phone number, Dad called and made an appointment for the next day. We then found another motel room.
The next morning at nine, we arrived at Grant Street Apartments, a six-story structure located on a busy downtown thoroughfare. In the lobby, a woman greeted us and introduced herself as Becky, one of two managers. “We have a lot of young people here,” she said. “There are also quite a few older people. We all look out for each other.”
The two vacant apartments were an efficiency and a one-bedroom. I liked them both, but the efficiency only had a couch that folded into a bed, and I didn’t want to mess with that. Since the rent on both apartments was about the same, I chose the one-bedroom.
The rooms were small but usable. There was a combination living and dining room with a kitchenette, a full bathroom on one side, and a bedroom on the other. The kitchenette had a sink, microwave, two-burner stove, and small refrigerator with freezer under the counter. The main room and bedroom had light gray carpeting, and the bathroom had a white-tiled floor. The apartment overlooked an alley. Although there wasn’t much of a view, there wasn’t much street noise, either. It was simply furnished with an armchair, end table, and dining table with lamp in the main room and in the bedroom a double bed, small table, and wardrobe.
My apartment was on the fourth floor, and the basement contained a huge laundry room. All the machines were coin-operated, and I could use them easily despite my limited vision. The basement also had a beauty shop which I frequented several times during my stay.
The building had two elevators: one in the back that tenants could use independently and one in the front that was the old-fashioned kind operated by Andy, a fellow who also picked up our garbage three days a week if we remembered to leave it outside our doors. Mailboxes were located inside the rear entrance near the self-service elevator.
The next few days were a blur of activity, as we got settled in my new home. The first order of business was to get a phone. Once that was working, Mother arranged for a cleaning service to come every other week while I was at work. Dad set up an account with a local taxi company. My parents paid for both these amenities. Since utilities and cable television were included in the rent, the only expenses I had to worry about were the phone and groceries.
We found Leeby’s, a small grocery store a few blocks away, and a supermarket called Hornbacker’s, easily accessible by bus. Buses ran every hour during the week and every two hours on weekends.
My parents stayed in the apartment with me. On Friday night, they left on their long drive back to Sheridan. Once they were gone, I was truly on my own, but I was excited.
Before I left Wyoming, I was given the phone number for the North Dakota commission for the blind in Grand Forks. I called them, and a mobility instructor came and helped me with some routes my parents and I had worked out. She also gave me phone numbers for a couple of people involved in blind bowling groups in the area. I phoned them and enjoyed bowling twice a month and met some nice people. This was one of few good things about that city.
At first, I rarely used the taxi. It was easy to take the bus to and from the nursing home, where I worked forty-hour weeks. On Saturdays, I took the bus to Hornbacker’s and did my weekly shopping. Since I didn’t have to be at work until eleven on Wednesday, I often walked to Leeby’s early that morning if I needed a few things.
Life in my little apartment wasn’t always good. Although the building was well maintained, and most of my neighbors were nice, the people above me often played loud music and had parties. I called the security officer late at night when it happened and complained to the manager, and the noise subsided for a while but started back up again.
The management had a contract with an exterminator who came every six months. Because of his process of ridding the building of rodents, all cupboards, closets, and drawers had to be emptied. The night before he was scheduled to come, I took clothes, dishes, and other items out of my drawers, cupboards, and wardrobe and laid them on every available surface except the bed. When I came home from work the next day, I put everything back. This was time consuming, and because I never saw one rat, mouse, or termite, I didn’t think it necessary. For the first time, I considered not staying in Fargo after my internship ended.
Late one night, the fire alarm rang, and as we gathered in the lobby, there appeared to be no security personnel or managers in sight. The fire department arrived and found nothing.
Winter came and with it, extreme cold, twenty-foot snowdrifts, and freezing rain. One morning during a particularly bad storm, my supervisor called and told me I didn’t need to go to work. I was relieved, since the local radio announcer advised against unnecessary travel, and I wasn’t sure if I could get a cab. It was nice having a snow day.
After that, I used the taxi more frequently. But since Dad often talked of walking to and from school in such conditions as a kid, I wasn’t sure how he would take the higher cab bills. I needn’t have worried.
In December, I was given two weeks off for Christmas and went home. In January, my parents drove me back to Fargo. On the morning I was to return to work and they to Sheridan, it was forty degrees below zero. Dad went out to start the car, returning a few minutes later to say, “Dead as a doornail.”
My parents had planned to drop me off at the nursing home on their way out of town. Instead, we walked to the nearby terminal and caught the bus just in time. “God damn, it’s cold!” Dad said, as we slogged through the snow from the bus stop to the nursing home. “How the hell do you do this?”
“You’ll see when you get the next taxi bill,” I said.
Several hours later after the car was fixed, they stopped by the nursing home to say goodbye before leaving town. “Don’t worry about the cab bill,” Dad said. “It’s too cold for walking.” I was relieved.
One day, my supervisor said, “I don’t think this internship is working out.”
This was a shock, since I thought things were going well, though I had difficulty keeping up with the paperwork, and it took me longer to complete other tasks. I was tempted to tell her that I didn’t like her cold city and would be only too glad to go home, but I wasn’t a quitter. When times were tough, Dad always told me not to let bastards get me down. Close to tears, I said, “I’m sorry you’re not happy with my progress so far, but if you’ll give me another chance, I’ll try harder and hope to do better.”
She gave me a second chance, but I could tell she didn’t think it would work out, and it didn’t. For the next three months, I did my best, but it seemed that almost everyone, including my supervisor, was against me. Others in our department were cold and came down on me for minor infractions, and one or two nurses snapped at me. The only things that kept me from giving up were the residents, who appreciated my music activities, and the love and support of my parents. My little apartment downtown became a place to which I was glad to retreat at the end of the day and a refuge I hated leaving in the morning.
The staff at the nursing home weren’t the only ones with frozen hearts. Because I was only getting so much from Social Security per month and no salary from my internship, it was hard making ends meet at times. One day when I tried to cash a check Mother sent me, the bank teller said, “There isn’t enough in your account to cover this. So, I can’t do it.”
At the bank in Sheridan, the employees knew me. This would never have happened. I was relieved when the manager at Leeby’s agreed to cash the check.
In March, the six months of my internship were up. My overall grade was a D. I was anxious to get home, but one of the few nurses who supported me asked me to sing for her wedding in April. The day after the nuptials, I was on the bus to Sheridan.
In May when the lease on my apartment was up, Dad and I returned. By then, even the apartment manager’s heart appeared frozen. “You didn’t vacuum,” she said when she inspected my apartment. “We won’t return part of your deposit for that.”
Dad and I loaded all my earthly possessions into his station wagon, drove away, and never looked back.
It was a depressing six months. Perhaps I should have felt defeated, as we left town. But I took Dad’s advice and didn’t let those North Dakota bastards get me down. Despite the D grade on my internship, I became a registered music therapist. Six months after I moved back to Sheridan, I found a job in a nursing home, where I worked for fifteen years. In the earlier part of this century, I met my late husband Bill. The rest of the story is in My Ideal Partner: How I Met, Married, and Cared for the Man I Loved Despite Debilitating Odds, which, along with two of my other books, is available for free from Smashwords until March 11th. Please see below for details.
Note: A version of the above was posted here in 2016 in response to another blogger’s post. Thanks to Patty Fletcher for also publishing it on her blog in September of 2020 as part of her Sips of Wine from the Grapevine series.
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